Friday, May 25, 2007

Mother Naked

Edward Potthast,
oil on panel, 1914.

Revolting word: kiddies. In spite of my grandmother's distaste for the term kids - she was of your-mother-is-not-a-goat persuasion - I use the collective frequently. But never kiddies.

Probably because I never heard them growing up - except for an occasional robust expletive like sonofabitch! - I was entranced by vivid vulgarisms and other bad, bad words. Well, except for one. I still close my eyes and flair my nostrils over that one.

However, the day I heard my three-year old say shit at every step on her way to her room, I decided it became my motherly responsibility to censure my language.

Now, of course, reverting to normal, if I come out with an acutely potty-mouthed expression, I enjoy the half-horrified, half-delighted, Mother! from my

Cutting the apron strings works both ways, you know.

I do wonder at times if I have sadly disillusioned them, shaken a foundation, and I wonder what conclusions, correct or not, they might arrive at from reading this blog.

I am glad they read it on occasion though - for Mother is a person, an individual, separate from her role. They seem pleased by my blogging - perhaps they don't dare express otherwise.

Have you ever had feed-back from relatives?

BTW: Other people have book reviews, but I do have a blog review.
You may read it on Sid Leavitt's Readers and Writers Blog.


Erik Ivan James said...

I suspect strongly that your children are at least delighted by your blog, Bernita. After all, I have the impression they are creatively talented too.

Ric said...

Two of my kids read it occasionally and my brother in Wisconsin keeps track (claiming I don't write enough family emails). Mother (who will be 84 next week) refuses to get on the web - though she's quite adept with email.

Your "Mother" line cracked me up.

Bernita said...

It's a sad fact, Erik, that they are much more "creatively talented" than Mum.

My respects to your mother, Ric.
All this time they seemed to think I didn't know the words.
Do you find his claim influences what you post?

Ric said...

Doesn't influence my postings, no. But, then, he thinks I'm a bit psycho anyway.

Last year, when I appeared at the Lapeer Celebrates Art as a reader, my daughter attended and was more than a little annoyed she only knew about it from my blog. So, they do pay attention even if one feels they don't.

Do you get the same reaction from your 'kiddies'?

I agree, that sounds like I'm calling the barn cats to warm milk.
"Here, kitty, kitty."

Bernita said...

One has used me as an example to overcome techno-terror among associates, Ric - along the lines of "even my mother blogs..."

It's better than calling "Here, pussie, pussie..."

Jeannie said...

My oldest knows about my blog. I doubt he reads it. I have no clue if he's told anyone else. I like to keep it to myself anyway. Besides there isn't much there that they haven't heard 19 times over.

December Quinn said...

That's a lovely review, Bernita! Even if it does only echo what the rest of us have known for some time.

Mine are too little to read, but I agree with Erik in suspecting yours read and enjoy.

A couple of years ago when we were starting to potty-train the Princess, she didn't make it to the toilet in time and peed all over the bathroom floor. That was funny, but what was really funny was her looking down at the expanding puddle, the looking up at us and saying, "Oh, shit!"

Sid Leavitt said...

Thank you, Bernita, for mentioning our weblog on your site, a generosity that is indeed appreciated. While there has been another post about another excellent site since the entry about yours, you still are tops on our blogroll.

Carla said...

Congratulations on your excellent blog review!

takoda said...

Congratulations on your review!

I can only imagine the kudos showered upon you had you been a silver-haired gent. (smile, grin)

My youngest went through a phase where he kept saying "cheeses" whenever he was frustrated. He thought that's what I said every time someone cut me off on the road.

Bernita, do you paint?


Jaye Wells said...

Excellent review. Members of my family read my blog, as do my friends. It's great, but it's also nerve-wracking. I'm expecting one of them to expose my total uncoolness to the world one of these days.

Jeff said...

"Have you ever had feed-back from relatives?"

All three of my children (ages 24, 22, and 16) say they visit my blog, although not on a regular basis.
When asked, they are not afraid to give me an honest and unbiased opinion about my writing. I like that.
Are they shocked by anything I write? They have never said so, but I suspect when the topic comes up among themselves the question "Did you see, and can you believe what Dad wrote?" has probably been asked. :)

Bernita said...

Sometimes, Jeannie, it's not what is told, but how it's told!

Thank you, December.Sid was excessively kind.
Eh, I never missed movies,etc., when the kids were little - they were an entertainment in themselves, as you just illustrated.

Aw, Sid, thank you! The generosity is on your side.

Thank you, Carla, Takoda, Jaye.
Since Sid is a former editor, I have to preen just a leetle bit.

Takoda, I immediately wondered if I should dye my hair!
Used to do some executions in oils ( a particularly fitting word) did some cartoons ( some in the archives.) Now I confine myself window sashes and the like.The world thanks me.

Jaye, we would never believe them that you were "uncool!"

"Did you see, and can you believe what Dad wrote?" has probably been asked...
I suspect the same sort of conversation goes on between mine, Jeff!
Don't think my other relatives know or care that I blog.

Bonnie Calhoun said...

I remember when my son was a church one Sunday..after service, we were leaving and as we passed by our Pastor, he chucked my son under his chin and asked him how he was.

My son, in his best "outdoor voice" said, "I feel like shit!"

My mouth was curbed from then on!

Charles Gramlich said...

Pretty cool review of your blog. I'll have to check out some of the other recommended blogs. I still remember when my son discovered that his daddy had feet of clay. It was as painful for me as for him.

Bernita said...

Bonnie, we never think quickly enough to blame it on the neighbours!

I think Sid will find lots more blogs to feature with you lot.
It's an inevitable - and maybe necessary - part of their development, Charles.

Demon Hunter said...

Congrats on your review. Great post, by the way! I don't have any kids yet, so I'll have to see what happens My mom reads my blog all the time.

raine said...

A wonderful (and well-deserved) review. Congratulations!

My relatives never visit my blog. Methinks they fear what they'll find there... ;-)

Bernita said...

Thank you, Tyhitia.
Like your user id because I have been hunting for an appropriate demon this morning for a horror story!

Bernita said...

Thank you, Raine.
They miss out on a lot of original thought and wit then.

kmfrontain said...

That's a well-deserved blog review, Bernita.

On the note of swearing, I gave up complete censorship, but my kids do understand that sometimes there are situations when a swear word could slip out "sans punition apr├Ęs".

Bernita said...

Thank you, Karen.
Yes, one doesn't wish to be unreasonable. And here's always the chance of learning a new and entertaining one...

sex scenes at starbucks said...

Rarely, thank god. I know one of my mom's oldest and dearest friends reads me regularly. My brother sometimes reads. But other than that, my husband doesn't even read me--he always says "I LIVE with you. I get it all firsthand."

I rarely censure my swearing around my children. I come from solid sailor stock--I have a feeling I might blow up or something if I use the word "fuck" in all its infinite forms at least once per day.

EA Monroe said...

Nice post, Bernita. My closest friends read, but no family or co-workers even know, except for "the kid." My son reads my blog and gives me grief. I may go "underground!"

Good grief! I hope he doesn't find this comment!

Bernita said...

I wonder if the word has become so acceptable that it loses any impact, SS.

Thank you, Elizabeth.
Don't let him bully you.

Dave said...

NO (neither blog or website) !!! and ! again!
Thank God! Every so often I e-mail them a story but they never reply.

Scott from Oregon said...

My father was funny about swearing. He'd stop everything and just say (he was very deep throated) "Scott?"

Enough of those and swearing never became a habit, which is odd, because in my profession, swearing is the norm.

None of my siblings are readers so they don't bother, since I write way to much as it is.

Besides, they've heard all my stories and are in the rolling of the eyes stage.

Your were a ringer for a good review.

Anonymous said...

Speaking as a Kid (I think it deserves a capital, much like the Flood or the Plague), I was a little startled when Mother vulgarly decided to write in public. Mostly because of the adult situations. Hell, I'm her Kid! How else should I react (initially)?

However, being her Kid, I also had enough couth to keep most of my temporary discomfort to myself. Mostly I was just glad that she was finally doing something for herself instead of everyone else. And I love the pictures and the in-jokes and the Minor Annals.

Probably Gerald Durrell best expresses the situation:

"...we can be proud of the way we have brought her up; she is a credit to us."

who has Gorm

spyscribbler said...

I love the blog review. He was damn right about your blog, that's for sure.

I've always struggled with what to call my students. See, "children" has a young connotation, and they don't particularly care to be called "children" after a certain age. Hence, "kids." I agree with the goat thing, but ... "kids" seems a little older than "children."

Then there's the "young adult" and "teen" phase. But you can't really call them that, can you? I just resort to students, LOL.

Bernita said...

"Every so often I e-mail them a story but they never reply"
I consider that damned rude of them, Dave.

"and swearing never became a habit,"
I suspect that's what it often is, Scott - a habit. Not that there isn't some rich, rolling creativity at times!
Thank you. I don't think Sid would eye-roll if he checks out your blog.

"...we can be proud of the way we have brought her up; she is a credit to us."
~choking with giggles~
Ah, "...Mrs. Durrells...!"

The Kids bought the computers, the scanner, the virus protections, set up the blog, explained how to cut 'n paste, to make attachments... Lookin' at you, Kids!

Thank you, Natasha.
Have you ever tried "Future Maestros?"

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